When “Fixing” Yourself Becomes the Problem
Oct 13, 2025
You’re always working on yourself.
Journaling.
Listening to the next self-help podcast.
Trying to calm the anxiety, change the thought, improve the routine, reach the next milestone, be the version of you who has it all together.
But here’s the truth:
What if the constant fixing is what keeps you stuck?
The Overachiever’s Trap (Yes, I Know It Well)
If you’re like many in our community, you’re someone who gets things done. You show up. You give. You strive. You care deeply. But sometimes, your nervous system doesn't feel your accomplishments. Instead, it loops in the background: "I still need to do more."
I know this voice intimately. I’ve been on this awakened journey for over 25 years, and I still hear it sometimes. It doesn’t shout. It’s not a neon sign. It’s a subtle broadcast—quiet, familiar, and sneaky.
Despite achieving goals, creating impact, building what looks like success… there are days I catch myself striving instead of thriving. Knowing the game isn’t always enough to break the cycle.
That’s when I remember: this isn’t about perfection. It’s about presence.
A Gentle Shift: Awareness, Not Fixing
Take a breath.
Right here. Right now.
You don’t have to be "better" to be worthy of rest.
You don’t have to "solve" your thoughts to feel peace.
Instead of fixing yourself today, just try this:
Ask: What part of me is asking to be heard today?
Place your hand on your heart. Get quiet.
Let the answer rise. It may be a whisper of fear, a tired part of you, an old belief.
Don’t change it. Just notice it. Witness it with compassion.
You’re not broken. You’re a whole being with layers.
Your awareness is the medicine.
This is the work I return to, again and again.
How the Awaken With Light App Supports This
Awaken With Light was created for this exact moment: the one where you choose presence over pressure.
It’s your pocket-sized sanctuary. Inside, you’ll find:
- Guided meditations that speak to the inner critic
- Mindfulness tools for stress relief
- Practices that grow emotional resilience
- Gentle rituals to help you reconnect and recenter
- And me, live, twice a month for 30-minute sessions to inspire, guide, and ground you—with recordings if you can’t attend.
- You’ll also have access to ask me questions directly inside the app.
This isn’t about becoming someone else.
It’s about coming home to yourself.
And joining the waitlist doesn’t commit you to anything. It simply means you’ll be notified when the app launches, and you’ll receive introductory pricing as a thank-you for being part of this community.
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Want to explore more ways to support your journey?
Visit AwakenWithLight.com to explore how we can work together.
Let this be your gentle permission:
To pause.
To listen.
To stop fixing and start feeling.
You’re already enough.
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